Becoming the Transitional Character: The Courage to Break Cycles
What if the pain you’ve carried wasn’t just yours to bear, but yours to transform?
In a powerful episode of me&my health up, former broadcaster turned healing advocate Mathew Blades introduces the concept of the transitional character: the person who chooses to end generational dysfunction and rewrite the legacy for future generations.
This isn’t about perfection. It’s about intention. It’s about becoming the one who says, “The cycle ends with me.”
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What Is a Transitional Character?
A transitional character is someone who:
- Recognises inherited patterns of dysfunction—emotional, behavioural, or relational
- Consciously chooses to heal, grow, and live differently
- Becomes a turning point in their family’s story
As Mathew puts it:
“The problem ran in my family… until it ran into me.”
From Trauma to Transformation: Mathew’s Story
Mathew’s journey began in the spotlight of a successful broadcasting career—but behind the scenes, he was unraveling. Years of unprocessed trauma, anxiety, and panic attacks culminated in a mental health crisis that sent him to the emergency room.
That moment became a turning point. Through a 5-day spiritual and mental health retreat, Mathew began the deep work of healing. He discovered that:
- His father’s sudden death had left him with limiting beliefs like “I’m not smart enough” and “I’m not useful.”
- Forgiveness therapy and inner child work were essential to his recovery
- Healing is not linear, and it requires a personalised, compassionate approach
Tools for Becoming a Transitional Character
Mathew emphasises that healing is deeply personal. What works for one person may not work for another. That said, here are some powerful starting points:
- 📝 Journaling
Begin by exploring your story. What patterns do you see? What beliefs have shaped your choices?
- 💬 Forgiveness Work
This includes forgiving others and yourself. It’s not about excusing harm, but releasing its hold on your future.
- 🧠 Therapy & Healing Modalities
From traditional therapy to spiritual retreats, shamans, or somatic work—find what resonates with your nervous system and soul.
- 🤲 The “Hand Over Heart” Practice
Close your eyes, place your hand over your heart, and ask:
“What do I need?”
Repeat for two minutes. Let the answers rise.
- 📆 90-Day Micro-Commitments
Transformation doesn’t require a life overhaul overnight. Small, intentional steps over 90 days can create lasting change.
Why This Work Matters
When you become a transitional character, you don’t just heal yourself—you shift the trajectory of everyone who comes after you.
Mathew’s work in Arizona prisons shows this in action. By helping inmates recognise their power to break cycles, he’s planting seeds of hope in the most unlikely places.
“You don’t have to carry what was handed to you. You get to choose what you pass on.”
Conclusion: You Are the Turning Point
Becoming a transitional character isn’t easy—but it’s sacred work. It’s the work of reclaiming your story, rewriting your beliefs, and choosing a future that feels aligned, whole, and free.
You don’t need to have it all figured out. You just need to begin—with honesty, with courage, and with the belief that healing is possible.
✨ The cycle ends with you.
✨ The healing begins with you.
✨ The legacy changes because of you.
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